{"id":327434,"date":"2015-07-14T04:00:15","date_gmt":"2015-07-14T02:00:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.focolare.org\/are-the-crises-of-couples-irreversible\/"},"modified":"2024-05-16T15:00:56","modified_gmt":"2024-05-16T13:00:56","slug":"are-the-crises-of-couples-irreversible","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.focolare.org\/en\/are-the-crises-of-couples-irreversible\/","title":{"rendered":"Are the crises of couples irreversible?"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"coppia_tramonto<\/a>Lack of communication and the incapacity to comprehend the other,<\/strong> see the positive side of the other person\u2019s diversity, and establish the right distance with the families of origin,\u00a0 are often the causes of the crises, in an individualistic society that does not believe in marriage and the commitment for a long-lasting relationship. The 7th<\/sup> edition of the course in Loppiano this year (20-27 June) was organized by the New Families<\/a> and aimed to strengthen the unity of couples.\u00a0 The course allowed participants to demonstrate \u00a0willingness to put themselves to the test, together with a deep sharing with the course guides and other families, and avail of the advice of experts that could help dead-end relationships to start anew. With these factors, also the greatest difficulties could be overcome, as was demonstrated by the moving testimonial of unconditional forgiveness by <\/strong>a couple that was reunited after nine years of separation. However, the path towards \u201cencounter\u201d is complex. <\/strong>\u00abUpon their arrival, the tense features and sad expressions of the couples conveyed their deep suffering, more than words,\u00bb recount Marina and Gianni Vegliach, course guides of the New Families. \u00abSome spoke about the need to find a meaning, some spoke about an estranged partner, some doubted having a future together, while others referred to the impossibility of dialogue and some confided of \u201cnot being able to forgive themselves.\u00bb. \u00abAs we went deeper into the course programme entitled \u00a0A course of light for the couple <\/em><\/strong>\u2013 continued Vegliach \u2013 the Focolare\u2019s spirituality of unity<\/a>, together with the psychological path, sharing of experiences, practical exercises, personal talks, and moments of recreation, helped to transform hearts and souls. And this showed through the changed expressions of their faces and eyes, which became more serene.\u00bb \u00abWhen we arrived we were empty, obsessed with the word \u201cend\u201d and now are going home with the words \u201cstart again,\u201d <\/strong>a couple said.<\/strong> Among the course-guide families were two couples who had done the course in the past, and decided to put themselves at the service with commitment, seriousness and competence, and who managed to enter the tunnel with those who were in the dark, and encourage and support the couples with their own experiences. The course covered themes on self-knowledge, diversity, <\/strong>conflict, and acceptance of others, and helps the participants to identify their own particular suffering which has to be faced, possibly also with the psychological support of an expert. The sharing of experiences with other couples <\/strong>helps one to view his own personal situation from various standpoints, find the courage needed to rebuild a quality relationship, and escape from that solitude which makes the crisis seem irreversible. The daily appointment at the \u201cTheotokos\u201d shrine and the special atmosphere of Loppiano<\/a>, the international town of the Focolare in Incisa Valdarno (Florence) \u2013 where the inhabitants learn spontaneously to put themselves in others\u2019 shoes and live in fraternity \u2013 contributed positively to the success of the course, and opened new possibilities to \u201clook to the future together, share the ups and downs,<\/em> rediscover dialogue and hope, and start caring for one another.<\/em>\u201d As someone said: \u00abNow we have the means to leave the closed shell of our own selves and hope to continue using these tools at the right moment.\u00bb To consolidate these results, a week-end verification and assessment event has been organised for the winter. Furthermore, a meeting has been set in Castelgandolfo from 24 to 27 September 2015, which will be open to not more than 60 course guides and experts to discuss the possibility of holding additional \u201cenlightening\u201d courses also locally.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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