Apr 24, 2019 | Non categorizzato
Enhancing the educational potential of the Internet – the work of Daniela Baudino It’s not a new phenomenon, but we are not yet fully equipped to deal with it. For years now our friendships, family, professional and emotional relationships have taken place not only in our common living environments, but also on the web. Through social media, chats and online communities we can form relationships with anyone, acquaintances or strangers. This is no small thing, because even though we surf the web we have not yet learned to swim there safely. We don’t always know what rules we have to follow so we can stay afloat, and keep away from the hidden “traps” on the Internet, in order to benefit from the opportunities it offers. This applies to adults but above all to young people, who are less aware of the consequences of their actions. Young people struggle more with feelings and emotions as they develop their own personalities and need safe direction and guidance – especially to avoid the concrete risks of online abuse and bullying. Educating young people in emotional maturity today includes learning to explore the universe of digital relationships, which are not only virtual but also real – although limited in time and space. Undoubtedly, the Internet has changed the nature of social relationships. We explored the topic with Daniela Baudino, a digital education expert and tutor in the Up2Me project for emotional and relationship education for children which is promoted by the Focolare Movement in various continents: The most obvious thing is that with the digital environment we have all become “neighbours”, and therefore it is easier to enter into a relationship, even just once, with people with whom we might never have entered into a relationship in the real world. This however means that relationships often risk being quickly over and done with, and therefore more fragmented. There is a risk that this leads to superficiality and that this attitude will then spread to real life relationships. What are some of the illusions that the online environment gives us? First of all, there is the idea that it is the number, or the quantity, of friends, or “likes” that we have that tells us how much we are worth. Then there is the belief that maintaining a relationship requires very little effort, and that there is no need to really get involved. Then there is the belief that we can truly get to know another person simply through contact on a social network. How can we deal with these online relationships in a more aware, informed and positive way? We must become aware of what each of our digital actions entails, for example, in terms of our privacy, our reputation and our relationships. We have to understand that the digital environment is only one way of maintaining relationships. It can enhance the other ways, but it must not replace them. Teenagers in particular are exposed to the dangers of the web. They can become victims of cyber bullying, revenge porn and grooming by adults. What sort of media education helps young people in these situations? I believe we need to re-propose the models we already know in “real life.” We have to help young people to understand that not everyone we meet wants what’s best for us and that there are real dangers online, and that everything we do in the digital environment stays there forever. We have to teach them to think very carefully before clicking. Sexting is a common practice among young people in which they take erotic videos and photos and send them to their boyfriends or girlfriends or even just friends. It’s a game that becomes dangerous if those who receive them, either for revenge or for fun, share these images on public platforms. This puts their friend at risk: it’s called “revenge porn.” Once online, these images can bring the young people to the attention of adult criminal elements. But why do children and young people ignore these dangers? How can we educate them to have real self-respect? These dangers are ignored because they young people have no perception of the reality of the risks they are taking. They completely lack awareness that their actions on the Internet can have real consequences. We need to help them to understand that online interaction affects our whole self – and therefore the consequences of the actions we carry out are very real and lasting. We have a lot of work to do to convince young people of the significance of everything they do online. You are involved in media educational activities, including the Up2Me project promoted by the Focolare Movement. In your experience, does living online have educational potential or is it just a possible trap? I believe that the digital dimension can be a fertile ground for education, because it is a meeting place where we can find different people with different ideas, and this gives us the opportunity to grow in our own humanity. For example, this growth might mean developing a critical approach to things and the ability to question one’s own point of view, or learning to choose the right words so as not to hurt another’s feelings. These are things that adults often don’t know how to do, so it’s good when young people can become specialists in this.
Claudia Di Lorenzi
Apr 22, 2019 | Non categorizzato
This is Jesus’ clear invitation in April 2019’s Word of life. He was the first to wash his disciple’s feet so that everyone would understand and live like this in every situation and in every social and cultural context The Missing Component I work in a company that makes computers. I’d been looking for a particular electronic component for months which would hugely reduce the cost of a product but not a single supplier had found it for me. So, I decided that I would design it myself and at the next weekly meeting, being aware of the long hours of work ahead of me, I asked that the order be postponed for another week. However, during that meeting, one of my colleagues who was going through a bit of a difficult time in his family, told us that he hadn’t managed to finish a piece of work which had been entrusted to him. The boss started to shout at him so I offered to finish his work for him. Immediately afterwards, thinking about it, I knew that I wasn’t going to have time to finish my own project and that I was going to be late home for the rest of the week. But on getting back to my office, I found a supplier waiting for me, without appointment, who had come to give me the very component I had been looking for. (M.A.Italy) The Courtyard Many young people from the area play in the courtyard of the apartment building where we live. One of these is Robert, a young guy with problems, who passes the time roaming the streets, often getting into arguments with others. We knew that his parents didn’t have time for him and that he was under the care of a psychiatrist. One day, while he was arguing again, my wife and I went down to the courtyard and invited Robert to come up to our house, where he stayed for the rest of the afternoon, playing with our two children, who were younger than him. In the days that followed, every time things became difficult for him, they brought him to us. We soon learned that Robert had told his psychiatrist how he was spending his afternoons. From the time he started coming to our house his behaviour improved, so much so that he was able to stop his medication. (D.H. USA) The Easter Egg Following a visit to my friend, who was ill, as I was leaving, his wife gave me an Easter egg for my son, Cesare. When I got home I found him playing with my young nephew who was often with us due to the difficult atmosphere in his family. With a wink to my son the egg went into the hands of his younger cousin, who was so happy. Cesare kept playing and when we were on our own I explained to him that when we give a gift we feel closer to Jesus. That afternoon his grandmother arrived with an even bigger Easter egg. Cesare was delighted and said, ‘Dad, why don’t you tell everyone this secret?’ (Z.C Italy) One Big Family After many attempts, an African immigrant which we had welcomed into our parish had managed to get his wife and children to join him from Africa but they didn’t have any of the things they needed. Their accommodation was a building site, with no electricity. So, I offered to do their laundry and others offered food and other necessities. This family, our brothers and sisters, experienced the joy of having found the large family they had thought they’d lost forever having left their own country. (F.F Belgium)
edited by Chiara Favotti
Apr 20, 2019 | Non categorizzato
The Resurrection! John and Peter go to the empty tomb and find the linen cloths on the ground, the shroud on one side. Mary Magdalene remains there weeping and sees two angels, one where Jesus’ head had been and one where his feet had been. She talks to them and then, turning, she sees Jesus. The apostles didn’t see him, and among them was the one Jesus loved in a special way on account of his innocence as well as for other reasons. Mary, the sinner, saw the angels and Jesus. «Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.» (Mt. 5:8) Who saw the most on this occasion? Mary Magdalene. The tears which flowed continually from her eyes, and her vigil outside the tomb, were the signs of a love which believes everything and wants everything. Then later her conversation with the angels and with the person she thought was the gardener, almost as though Jesus were a person in whom she alone was interested. These two things had purified her heart perhaps more than the hearts of the others, to such a degree that she merited seeing heavenly beings and the risen Jesus. This is the meaning of the Resurrection. Redemption is completed. Death is conquered. Sin is overthrown by mercy poured out in superabundance from the tree of the Cross.
Chiara Lubich
(From: Chiara Lubich, Knowing How to Lose, New City, London, 1981, pp. 84-85)
Apr 19, 2019 | Non categorizzato
Igino Giordani wrote many pages on Mary, on understanding her mystery. Below is one of these in which he invites us to look to Mary at the foot of the Cross, to be like Her. Let your model be Mary Desolate. After having given life to Jesus, she loved and served him, and although she felt detached from him and rejected by the crowd that was not yet Church, her faith never wavered. In the supreme trial, she did not miss the appointment at the foot of the cross. She was as the Holy Spirit had formed her: a heart in which people’s offenses were extinguished; a centre from which only love poured forth. She was complete self-giving. Dead to herself, she lived of God: Only God lived in her. (…) People leave you alone, so that you can be alone with God. Then your soul is no longer distracted or stolen from you: then, in the silence, you converse with the Eternal. You stay, with the Crucified One, on God’s level.
Igino Giordani
(Igino Giordani, Mary, the Perfect Model , New City, Rome, 1989, 131-133)
Apr 18, 2019 | Non categorizzato
What meaning does the mystery of God dying on a cross have for the men and women of our times? In that supreme sacrifice, God took upon himself all our faults. He asks us to have the courage to live as he did, out of love for the world. From a text by Pasquale Foresi. “How could Jesus have suffered being separated, even abandoned, by the Father, if he was the Son of God, indeed God himself? Let’s try to delve, at least a little, into what could have happened to Jesus at that moment in his passion, when he felt the pain of being forsaken by his Father. In fact, Jesus personally experienced being far from God. He was able to reach that point because he was a human being, and therefore, united to all humankind. There, on the cross, all of us, each and every one of us, were present in Jesus, because of the mysterious plan of God by which he willed that all humanity be summed up in Jesus. At that moment, all our sufferings and all our faults were taken up by him and made his own. He then turned to the Father and said, “Into your hands I commend my spirit” (Lk 23:46). In that moment, everything was truly accomplished and all our sins were forgiven. Therefore, if we as Christians are called to re-live Christ, we have to live what he lived. And, in a totally unique way, Christ lived the redemption of the human race. Therefore, for us, re-living Jesus crucified and forsaken means making his sentiments our own. Indeed, it means much more. It means allowing the suffering-love that Jesus lived on the cross to live again in us, so that we too may take part in the completion of his passion and share his glory with him.”
Pasquale Foresi
God calls us (published in Citta’ Nuova magazine 1974, pp 58-61)
